Deciding to put your baby into an adoption plan is not an easy one. There are so many things to think about that sometimes; birth mothers feel overwhelmed. Rather than let you feel overwhelmed, we want to inform you of some essential aspects to consider.
Options for adoption can be simplified, seek out friends or family. Or get yourself an adoption attorney. Let’s take a look at how these two options can be helpful for you.
Friends and family can find your choice of adoption to be confusing. We still battle a social stigma because people don’t understand the process and this act of love. This is where your friends and family can help. If someone close to you chooses to adopt your baby, they can ensure proper care and your involvement. Should you decide to be involved in the child’s life. Most of us have a family member or friend we trust and who may be willing to step up but if you don’t we will step up for you.
Sometimes, your circumstances do not make friends or family a good option for adoptive parents. This is where an adoption attorney can be a significant asset to you. They know the laws and adoption process better than anyone in your life. An attorney is with you at every step of the adoption journey and will make sure that the care of your child is the most critical aspect.
We are here to support you and your decision.
If you have decided to use an attorney for the adoption process, it’s time to think about the adopting parents and if they are the right fit. If you are giving your baby up for adoption it is your choice to seek out adoptive families means you have control over who the adoptive parents will be. Before you work with open or private adoption, here are some things you need to think about carefully.
Hopeful adoptive families need to be able to support your child throughout their lives financially. How is their financial status now? Don’t be afraid to ask about their debt and income. If you want your child to have opportunities for good schools/colleges, soccer practices, and dance classes, you need to know they can take the responsibility.
Health is a concern for many people. Don’t be too quick to judge based on age; ask them about their health and how they care for themselves. If you want to be sure that your child will not suffer the loss of a parent too soon, ask. Of course, accidents arise, and some health issues are not detected right away. But if someone has a healthy family history and lives an active and balanced life, you can usually depend on someone to live long enough to raise children.
Be mindful that they will be ready to ask a birth mother about the child’s family medical history. Be open about what you know regarding the family history for yourself and the birth father. If you do not know, make an effort to find out. If you have a special needs baby, finding the right family is more critical by disclosing all diagnoses and potential future risks. Not everyone can take on a special needs child, and it’s crucial to find the right fit.
Know the family dynamic before committing to an adoption opportunity. Have you envisioned your child growing up with siblings? Would you rather they be the oldest or an only child? These may sound like silly questions, but an expectant mother usually wants better for her child. If the birth parents had a horrible experience as an only child, adoptive families become more attractive.
If you want your child to have siblings, be mindful of the number of children and the adoptive family’s income. Some families have big hearts and want to bring a lot of love to children but aren’t necessarily financially equipped to take on much. When you think you will pursue adoption, ask your adoption lawyer whether or not they screen the adoptive families to handle the financial weight of several children.
Many children are adopted by families with different religions and can be an important factor in your decision. Ask yourself these questions:
It is not uncommon to review adoptive family profiles and seek out families of the same culture or ethnicity. However, we find that adoptive families of different cultures and nationalities adopt quite a few infants. Expectant mothers will textured hair will want to ensure that adoptive families with untextured hair are willing to learn proper care. If the child is of another ethnicity, keeping that child educated about their origins is equally as important to any birth family.
Most adoptive families are screened to ensure that they are psychologically prepared to pursue adoption. Even for those with mental health disorders, adoption professionals are careful about ensuring that the waiting families take good care of themselves. You should make your concerns known and investigate adoptive families that fall within your boundaries.
Most importantly, trust your instincts when talking with a potential adoptive family. Expectant parents should never follow through with a family that doesn’t feel right. Many pregnant women can discern if someone is the right fit based on casually talking with potential adoptive parents.
Juliana has years of experience with open adoption and has many adoptive families to choose from. As an informed adoption specialist, she can offer you any adoptive family profile that she feels fits your parameters of what you desire for your baby. By seeking out Juliana, you are guaranteeing yourself and your baby a great adoption experience. Call today and let our professionals talk to you about your options and how we can help you take the following steps.