Adoption Vs Abortion: What Should You Choose?

If you are pregnant and you have already come to the conclusion that parenting and raising a child is not the right choice for you at this point, then you are probably left thinking about whether terminating the pregnancy or adoption is the right choice.

Although you may seek advice from family, friends, and the father of the child, only you can decide which option is right for you.  No one should pressure you into one choice over the other.  Here at Juliana Gaita, P.A. we are here to support you during this time. There is no judgment from our office and we will talk through all the options with you.

Abortion is not your only option

We understand that terminating your pregnancy may not be the right choice for you, even if you know that you aren’t ready for motherhood. Some women feel that the abortion procedure is too invasive, or are concerned about the negative impact getting an abortion will have on their emotional or mental wellbeing. Adoption is the perfect solution in situations like these, allowing women to continue their pregnancies free from the regret of “what if’s” and the fear of wondering what will happen once their baby is born. When you get in touch with an adoption agency or law firm, they will work with you to make sure that you get to design an adoption plan that works best for you and your child.

Benefits Of Adoption Vs Termination

1. Don’t have to go through the termination process
   • They’ve already had a terminated pregnancy and don’t want to go through that process again.  Many women who come to our office to make an adoption plan, have already had a termination before.  It’s not that they necessarily regret terminating, as it was the right choice for them at that time, but they feel that they may not want to go through the process again and it would be better to give their baby up for adoption.  Many women experience guilt or negative feelings after termination and decide when again facing an unwanted pregnancy, they don’t want to experience that again. Some women feel they will regret having a termination, but will never regret giving life to their child.
2. They Want to Help Create a Family 
   • Although having a baby at this time in your life might not be right for you, many women recognize that there are others out there when the time is right, but who are experiencing fertility issues.  The idea of helping a family grow is motiving to some women who want to choose adoption over termination. Our waiting families do not take for granted the gift they know they are being given.
3. Religious reasons 
   • Many women who come to us to discuss the option of adoption, have strong religious beliefs against termination.
4. Financial assistance with living
   • Some women who choose adoption recognize that they will need assistance with living expenses.  By choosing adoption and making an adoption plan, you may receive living expenses for things like rent, food, phone, transportation, and clothing during your pregnancy.  The women who choose adoption may use this time in their life to stabilize their life and achieve and attain the goals that they have with a little extra help.
5. Its too late to terminate
   • If it’s too late to have and you don’t want to co-parent with the other parent.  There are women who come to us after time has passed.  The choice of adoption vs. parenting can be made at any time.  Some women were initially thinking they were going to parent the child but now for many reasons have decided that it is not the right time and have changed their minds. Sometimes they have broken up with the Father and they don’t want to necessarily co-parent with the Father for the rest of the child’s life. Adoption is still possible even when the relationship with the Father is complicated.

If you decide that adoption is the right choice for you, our counselors and legal team are on standby to discuss exactly what adoption is.  The first step is gathering the information.  Everything about adoption is confidential.

Adoption offers an opportunity to help others

Another benefit of choosing adoption is being able to help other people realize their dream of having a family. Many couples struggle with fertility, and cannot have biological children or large families of their own. Other couples simply prefer to adopt and feel called to provide a loving home for children in need of one.

Either way, knowing that you are giving the precious gift of life to another can be deeply fulfilling, and a beautiful way to bring a new life into the world. The intention of helping others shifts the focus from having an unexpected or untimely pregnancy to doing a heroic act of kindness for another human being, which makes the entire process even more meaningful. 

Financial Assistance 

Financial concerns are another reason why many women choose adoption. Pregnancy and motherhood are expensive, and it is extremely stressful to go through these life stages without financial support or a strong financial foundation. If you decide to put your baby in an adoption plan, your living expenses, medical expenses, and basic needs will be taken care of by the adoption agency or law firm you work with. This financial help goes a long way, allowing women to make progress with their lives while choosing a better future for their children. 

Adoption & Finding An Adoptive Family Is Straight Forward

After you first few appointments, you may want to start thinking about what you are looking for in a family to adopt your child.  You will also want to think about what type of contact you want with that family and your child after the adoption.  Once we talk though those options it is time to start the matching process. All of our waiting families are home-study ready, which means they have gone through all the background screens and checks necessary to adopt a child.  We have families waiting from all around the Country.  The waiting families have created profile books for you to look through to get to know them.  After looking through their profiles you may be ready to match and choose or you may have questions and want to set up a phone call, Zoom call or in person meeting.

Once you match with a family, you can continue to get to know them throughout the pregnancy.  You may want to send notes and pictures back and forth. 

It’s too late or not possible to get an abortion 

There are many reasons why adoption may be the best choice for you and your baby. For some women,  it’s sometimes simply too late to choose to have an abortion. For others, their life circumstances have changed and they no longer feel able to raise their child. This is often the case when someone was expecting to co-parent with the baby’s father or was relying on help from family, but realizes that doing so is no longer possible or the right choice for them. Please know that even in situations when parenting with the baby’s biological father is complicated or is not an option, adoption is still possible. 

You can continue your pregnancy

Even if you aren’t ready to become a parent, pregnancy and birth are beautiful, life-changing events that you may wish to experience. Adoption is the right choice for many women because being able to give birth and meet their child is a special and precious journey that they wouldn’t have otherwise had. You can still choose adoption even if you are in the later stages of your pregnancy, even when it’s too late to terminate. You can also put your baby in an adoption plan once you’ve given birth, so there’s plenty of time to create an adoption plan that works for you. 

Understanding The Adoption Process

Adoption can feel overwhelming, which is why we recommend scheduling a free consultation with us. We will meet with you to explain and clarify the stages of adoption and to understand why you are considering adoption, regardless of what you end up deciding. We are advocates for women and strongly encourage expectant mothers to make the choice that is best for them. 

If you do choose to go forward with an adoption plan, our counselors will meet with you to go over your budget, financial circumstances, and expenses that may come up during the pregnancy. Together as a team, we will help you obtain medical insurance and schedule your medical appointments with the doctor’s office and practitioners you feel most comfortable with. We are here to support you throughout the entire adoption process and have many resources available for birth mothers, including professional counseling, therapy, and support groups. 

Finding An Adoptive Family Is Straight Forward 

After your first few meetings with us, you may want to start thinking about what you are looking for in an adoptive family. Your ideal adoptive family may be different from what other people need or value, so take your time and put together a detailed list of what matters to you. 

Another essential part of putting together an adoption plan is deciding how much contact you would like to have with your child and the adoptive parents. Some adoptions are closed with no contact at all, while other adoptions are open or semi-open, allowing for updates, pictures, and in-person meetings. 

Once we review the different types of adoption and what you’re looking for in an adoptive family, it’s time to begin the matching process. All of our adoptive families are home-study ready, which means that they have already passed a series of background checks that are required by law for someone to adopt a child. We have a wide range of ready adoptive families from across the United States, with profile books that you can read through to find out more about them. If an adoptive family interests you, we will arrange a phone call, video call, or an in-person meeting to address any questions you may have. Once you’re matched with an adoptive family, you will be able to get to know them throughout your pregnancy. 

Design Your Birth Plan

As adoption attorneys, our top priority is that you feel supported, heard, and taken care of throughout the adoption process. We will help you design a birth plan according to your wishes as your due date approaches. As the birth mother, you have the final say over all of the details, from where you will give birth to whether or not the adoptive parents will be present, and much more. The adoption process is finalized by signing paperwork after the birth, usually, once you have already been discharged from the hospital. 

Questions About Adoption Vs Termination

As you are getting closer to the birth of your baby, we will help you create a birth plan.  How do you envision giving birth?  Will you want to be in the same room as the baby? Do you want the Adoptive Parents there?  Is there financial assistance? These are all things you get to decide.

Once you are discharged from the hospital it will be time to sign all of the legal paperwork.  You are encouraged to have your attorney go over all of the documents with you.  We will pay for any attorney of your choosing.  We want you to feel happy, secure, and informed throughout the entire process.

Get Judgment Free Assistance At Florida Adoption Lawyers

If you are not ready to be a parent but also don’t want to terminate your pregnancy and need a judgment-free place to discuss your options, call or text us anytime at 561-220-4431. Any societal, political, or religious stigmas you may be facing from others in your personal life have no place in our offices. We are a judgment-free adoption law practice and we are here to help and empower you to make the choice that’s right for you. 

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