Sometimes we get phone calls from moms who are really struggling and have the thought that they don’t want their child anymore. Perhaps they originally thought about doing an adoption but felt pressure to keep their baby and try to parent. Sometimes birth parents find themselves in an unexpected financial situation or in an unstable situation. Perhaps parenting and raising a child is much different than you thought it would be, or perhaps you haven’t been able to bond with your child the way you thought you would.
Although you may feel guilt or fear for thinking these things, requesting help or recognizing that parenting your child is not what is best for you or your child is actually a really courageous and self-reflective act. We help find families for children of all ages and there are families that would prefer to adopt a child instead of an infant.
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The truth is, you can put your child up for adoption at any age as long as they are under 18 years old. It is important to note that the closer to 18 they are, the harder it is to find someone to adopt. Please don’t let that deter you. We understand the struggles and we can help you find the right family to step in. Many adoptive parents that look for older children, seek out foster parent adoption. This gives you the opportunity to truly bond and provide a loving home to a child who needs it.
There can be quite a few reasons to make this big decision. They vary widely between all families and individuals considering and what is a reason for one, won’t be the same for another.
These reasons include:
If the child you want to put into an adoption plan is the only child, you will be spared the painstaking task of talking with other children. Other families have this task and can be the hardest conversation of them all. The best thing to do is to speak to these children honestly and with positive language. Speak to them with age-appropriateness and they will be able to process what is happening. This is especially important as the pregnancy continues and more questions come up. At times, it may be difficult. Family counseling can help you navigate this situation so that everyone is able to process the event.
If you are having thoughts that you’d like to give your child up for adoption, our counselors are here to talk to you about how you are feeling and the adoption process.
You can call, text, or email us at any time with any questions. Call or Text: 561-869-3703 or email [email protected]. We answer our office phone 24/7.